How to Stop Loving Someone Who Doesn't Love you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

How to Stop Loving Someone You Cant Have

The reason you still can’t stop loving that person although you know that you can’t have them is that your subconscious mind didn’t fully accept what happened.

Acceptance can only happen when the subconscious mind makes sure that the event is irreversible. Most people who want to stop loving someone prevent themselves from accepting the fact that they can’t have them by doing the following:

  • 1- Visualizing the good old memories: Visualization is one of the most popular forms of mind programming. The more you visualize the person you used to love the more you will get attached to them. See 4 things that can get you attached to a stranger quickly
  • 2- Keeping all the things that reminds them of that person: When you keep the things that remind you of the person you used to love such as gifts, text messages, e-mails.. etc you actually signal your mind to not recover. Your mind will only start recovering when you take actions that prove that this matter is over
  • 3- Never confronting the person directly and so keeping the door open for hope: recovery happens only when hope is eliminated. As long as you are feeding hope you are hardly going to start recovering
  • 4- Day dreaming about being with the person once again: Day dreaming is just like visualization. Day dreaming can program your mind and make you more attached to the person you broke up with
  • 5- stalking the person to get their latest information: When you stalk someone you indirectly let your mind think that this person is important and as a result you get more attached to them
  • 6- Talking about the person with friends and close ones: When you talk about the person you used to like you will be programming your mind to like them more without noticing. See also Why do people talk about their exes.
  • 7- refusing to rebuild their social lives or to claim their lives back: As long as your social life is not going well you will become very dependent on the person you used like. The only way to break free from that spell is to rebuild your social life.

All of these practices keep hope present and as a result prevent acceptance from happening. If you want to stop loving that person you should first accept what happened by confronting them and making sure that they have no intentions to resume the relationship. (see the article the anatomy of acceptance for more information on that topic)

The second thing you should do is deleting the mails, the text messages and removing everything that reminds you of that person. Preventing yourself from thinking about that person is another very important task. I know that sometimes thoughts flow involuntary, but at least you can prevent these involuntary thoughts from growing bigger. All of these actions will convince your subconscious mind that the relationship is over and so you will be able to stop loving that person.

Is there anybody Better than them?

One of the things that can prevent you from stopping the love towards someone is believing that this person was the one.

If you think that your ex was the one then ask yourself a question, is there anybody else on earth who is better than them? Even if you didn't find any one better then this doesn't mean that there isn't a better person that you didn't meet yet. Definitely that person was the not the best person in the world else everyone would have loved them. See Ways to get over a breakup fast

Instead of feeling sad or down promise yourself that you will find someone better than this person. This promise will help you get rid of the false belief that this person was the best person in the world and so you will be able to stop loving them.

In my book, How to get over anyone in few days i pointed out that one of the main reasons people fail to recover fast from breakups is that they have false beliefs such as the existence of "the one" and "the soul mate". as soon as they realize that such beliefs are false they recover ten times faster.

Subconscious Mind & Repetition

One of the most powerful ways to convince your subconscious mind to believe in something is repetition. The more you repeat the fact that the relationship is over the more will this statement turn into a solid belief (see the psychology of convincing for more information on that topic).

If you want to stop loving someone then prevent yourself from repeating these phrases or from even thinking about them:

I can’t live without them
I can’t stop loving them
That person was the one.

Don't get this part wrong. I don't want you to repeat any kind of affirmation to feel better but i just want you to confirm the fact that the relationship ended over and over until your mind believes in it.

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