Why you need to impress the friends of the person you like

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Why you need to impress the friends of the person you like

In many of the articles i wrote about attraction i said that the perceived desirability of a person is much more important than their real desirability.

If the three best friends of a woman believed that a guy is desirable then certainly the girl will eventually acquire the same beliefs, not because the guy is desirable but because she will think that everyone likes him.

When trying to win the heart of someone lots of people mistakenly assume that they should try to only impress the person himself while in fact, it's extremely important to impress the people surrounding that person too so that you can have more control over their world.

Each one of us lives in a different world

Each one of us has got significant characters in our own world whom we spend most of our time with. The beliefs a person builds about life doesn't usually need to be true as long as they can perfectly describe what's going on in their little world.

I previously said that research has shown that if members of the opposite sex believed that someone is desirable then a bystander of the same sex will develop the same belief about the person. (see Social proof theory).

In short one of the keys to making someone love you is to program the minds of the key people in their life whenever possible because that will certainly affect their beliefs about you.

Don't underestimate the way beliefs are formed

New beliefs can easily be formed once they are repeated more than once especially when they come from a trusted source. Most people trust their friends and this makes them more likely to get programmed by them.

In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i explained how you can easily program someone's mind once you program the minds of their friends.

If you managed to make the friends of your target talk about you in a good way then you have already started to convince your target to love you. As the good words keep getting repeated over and over your target will be more likely to fall in love with you.

People keep wondering why sometimes less attractive people attract very attractive ones because they totally forget about the fact that a human brain can easily be programmed once the right steps are taken.

How to attract someone to you?

In order to attract someone you first need to impress them. Showing the person that you posses good traits that they lack, showing them that you are superior to them or being different in any other way can help you impress them.

Once the person gets attracted to you the next step would be intensifying this attraction by displaying your good traits one by one.

As soon as attraction reaches a certain level you should then move on to the final step which is turning this attraction into obsession. (see How to attract someone)

By sending the person mixed signals that confuses them ,like showering them with attention one day and ignoring them the other day, the person will start to become obsessed with you.

At this point you can confidently say that you managed to attract them to you.

The book How to make someone fall in love with you was released by 2knowmyself.com; the book will dramatically increase your chance of letting someone fall in love with you.

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