Why your ex liked someone uglier than you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

What is ugly?

That's a common question i hear often. Many people complain about the fact that their Exes left them for people who are not as handsome as them or according to some descriptions 'who are uglier than them'.

I understand it can feel puzzling to find your Ex going for a person whom you believe that he is not as good as you. But there are few things you have to put in mind in order to understand how attraction works.

The first thing is, what is the definition of ugly?
In my previous article Why do people perceive physical attractiveness differently i said that ,even though there are universal beauty standards, each person has his own definition of physical attractiveness.

Ever seen a person and believed that he is ugly only to discover that people like his looks?
There are so many psychological factors that affects the way we see others.

Past experiences, beliefs, childhood, psychological makeup and many other factors can let us see things in our own special way. This is why each person ends up having his own unique love map.

The love map of each person includes a certain definition for attractiveness. yes in some cases many people might agree on the looks of a certain person but still each person would have his special taste.

In my book The psychology of physical attraction i said that attractiveness is a function of perception. In short, that person is uglier than you according to your own perception but your Ex might be seeing things differently.

How much weight do looks carry?

Are looks very important?
Are looks partially important?
Or do they matter only a bit?

If you understood the previous section correctly then your answer will be: it depends. Generally men do care about looks more than women. But does this mean that this is always the case?

No it's not. The love map of each person implies certain things. A man might still care about looks but give it a lower weight. A woman might care a lot about looks where as her friend might give it less weight. It all depends on the person's love map. See what is a love map.

Now if you made sure that your Ex thinks that you are more handsome than the person they are currently with then the next important question you need to ask yourself is : How much weight do looks carry according to your Ex's love map.

Are you too obsessed with your Ex?

Are you too obsessed with your Ex?
In my previous article Why do we miss our exes when we meet new people i said that improper recovery can lead to thinking more about our exes.

If you are still concerned who your Ex dates then probably you need to work on your recovery a little more.

When you heal completely you won't worry much about your Exes nor about the people they are with.

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