Can someone love you and cheat on you

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Can someone love you and cheat on you

Yes its possible.

Just like all other actions taken by a person cheating is governed by certain psychological needs. Sometimes a person would cheat to fulfill a certain psychological need and not because he hates his current partner.

Of course some people might cheat because they are not satisfied with their current relationships but a large number of people can love someone and cheat on him.

Why do people cheat

Psychological needs such as desperate need for attention or wanting to prove to himself that he is still attractive might force a person to cheat.

There are some people out there who do nothing but trying to make as many people fall in love with them as they can. Those people feel they are desirable when they find people running after them. As soon as those people settle and become in a relationship they lose their source of power and so feel like cheating to regain their importance.

Others chase the chemicals that fade after the first stage of the relationship ends, those people mistakenly believe that they don't love their partners anymore because they don't understand that the disappearance of affection is a normal stage of the relationship. (see Why do men cheat)

Those people also become attracted to the idea of having a secret relationship as its usually involves higher emotional intensity than their current relationship.

In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i said that a research has pointed out that secret relationships or the ones surrounded by dangers involve high levels of excitement and emotional intensity. This was also one of the reasons twilight movie became popular, what's more emotionally intense than loving a dangerous vampire??

Should you spend your life with someone who cheated on you?

This would strongly depend on the reason behind the cheating.
If someone cheated on you because he needed to feel confident or worthy then you carry part of the blame and living with him could still be possible.

If the person cheated on you because he wanted other personality traits that you don't have then you might want to reconsider the relationship.

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