How to approach strangers

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

How to approach strangers

How many times did you approach a stranger and came back disappointed after the conversation didn't go the way you wanted it to go?

I am sure you have searched the internet for tips for approaching strangers and yet you found superficial advice such as smile more often or ask open questions.

No one can deny the importance of such tips but in order to approach a stranger successfully there are deeper facts that you must understand about humans.

In this article i will tell you about some extreemly effective tips that will help you approach strangers and run successful conversations with them.

Effective tips for approaching strangers

  • Understand that everyone wants approval: Most people want approval and will feel good if they felt demanded. Now what most people do, especially the ones with low self esteem, is that they approach people while acting as if they don't care or while acting arrogant just to prove to the stranger that they are not that interested not to feel bad in case they got rejected. Now put yourself in the shoes of the other person for a moment. That person wants to feel approved as well and as so soon as he sees someone frowning in his face or as soon as he finds someone who acts like he doesn't care then he will certainly feel bad and ignore him!!
  • People who feel good about themselves are relaxed & friendly:
  • If you are not feeling good being yourself then you will do one of two things. You will either be unfriendly not to show the stranger you are approaching that you need his approval or you are going to show off to prove that you are better than you seem to be. In the Solid Self confidence program i said that showy people are the ones who believe that others underestimate them and that's why they try to improve their image by showing off.

  • Think about others during the conversation and not yourself: While approaching strangers many people does the mistake of focusing on themselves and their own emotions instead of focusing on the emotions of the person they are talking to. For example the person you are approaching might be silent because he is shy, if the situation was seen correctly by you then the right thing that should be done is talking more to help him ease up. Now what people do is that they think that silent people are arrogant ones and so they don't try to talk to them at all. Because they focused on their emotions and didn't understand the stranger well they came up with false conclusions and ruined their first meeting

Self confidence and approaching strangers

The most important skill that you need in order to approach strangers correctly is self confidence not because it will help you talk right but because it will help you see things correctly.

Just as you saw many people start conversations the wrong way not because they dont know how to talk but because they see things incorrectly.

They think that a shy person is arrogant, They think that smiling to others will make them seem needy and they assume that others don't want approval the same way they want it.

Once you see things correctly you will be able to approach any stranger with confidence.

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