Why do you sometimes feel unsure about something

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

The subconscious mind and awareness

When was the last time you felt unsure about something without knowing why?
Do you sometimes get a gut feeling that you shouldn't do a certain thing?
Why do you sometimes fail to provide a reason for rejecting a certain offer?

These kinds of situations happen to everyone of us and the reason you can't explain them is that you don't know how your subconscious mind works. The subconscious mind is the part of your brain that does the things you don't become aware of.

By delegating certain tasks to your subconscious mind and letting them run in the background your brain saves its resources and only allows few important things to come to your awareness.

This means that you don't become aware of all of the thoughts that come into your mind. Research has found that you don't experience any emotion before certain thoughts come to your mind and in most cases those thoughts run in the background of your mind without coming to your awareness. (see also Where do emotions come from)

Why do you sometimes feel unsure about something

As soon as someone tells you about something one of two things happen:

  • 1) The reason comes to your awareness: A reason for not liking it comes to your awareness and you tell that person that you don't want to do it because of that reason
  • 2) You feel that its not right for no reason: In the second case you feel that this thing is not right because of the thoughts that passed in your subconscious mind even though your conscious mind wasn't aware of them

In other words your past experiences can sometimes make you believe that the thing you are about to do shouldn't be done but because the information never reaches your conscious mind you just don't understand why you don't feel like it. (see also How your childhood affects your adulthood)

How to understand what's going on in your mind?

So what if the reasons that made you feel that something is wrong weren't correct?
What if the problem was with your past experiences?

If for example you were cheated on before then later on you always felt wrong whenever you were about to get into a relationship then something is wrong with your belief system. But how can you fix those false beliefs without first realizing that they are the reason behind your desire to stay single?

This is why you need to understand what's going on in your subconscious mind. Below are some methods that can help you do that:

  • 1)Collecting information: In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i said that people fall in love with others without realizing why it happened but when they read about the psychology of love they realize that they fall for those who meet the criteria present in their subconscious minds. In other words when you collect more knowledge you start to become aware of the thoughts that come to your subconscious mind
  • 2) Sleeping on it: Sometimes it takes time before the information passes from your subconscious mind to your conscious mind. In other words by waiting few days before you take the decision you are allowing the reasons you aren't aware of to come to your conscious mind (see also Why can't i take a decision)
  • 3) Brainstorming with people: By asking questions and getting answers you are very likley to get close to that part of you that rejects the idea. Even thinking on your own can help you find the answers but brain storming can help you do that faster

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