How to stop worrying about the first impression

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

worrying about the first impression

Many people worry about the first impression others form of them especially when they are not sure of their looks or their ability to start a good conversation.

"Will people like me?" and "What will they say about me?" are among the common questions people who worry about the first impression ask themselves.

A recent research has shown that once people like a person they will forget about anything that they didn't like about him. This means that even if your nose looks unattractive after a person likes you he will still find it attractive!

Read this article to know more about this research.

A study about the first impression

participants were asked to rate the attractiveness of some pictures of people from the opposite sex. After each person chose the most attractive one, according to his point of view, he was handed the picture of the person he chose in his hand.

However while handing the participants the pictures some of them were replaced by pictures of other people. Only 13% of the participants discovered that they were handed different pictures!!

The participants were asked to describe why they found the pictures they chose attractive and 87% of those who got different pictures explained why they liked them!

Do you know what does this mean?
It means that once a person decides that another one is attractive it wont matter how he looks like! (see also Physical attractiveness perception)

How to stop worrying about the first impression

In the psychology of attraction section i explained how physical attractiveness is only one element of the attraction puzzle. This means that there are tens of factors that can make you appear attractive to others and that has nothing to do with your physical looks.

This means that if you made use of any of the other elements and managed to appear attractive to others then they will forget about your physcial looks.

In my article Does our personality affects our level of attractiveness i said that studies have shown that people can change their ideas about the physical attractiveness of others after they get to know them more.

In the previous study you saw how people ignore everything once they make their minds about the attractiveness of a person and this means that if you displayed a great personality for example then people will ignore your physical looks. (see How important is physical beauty)

In short, do anything to make the other person like you even if its something as simple as a smile and he will find you attractive!

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