I don't have any goals in life

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

I don't have any goals in life

Many readers send me messages telling me that they don't have any goals in life and that they are not interested in achieving anything.

Many people connect happiness with goal setting the wrong way, Its so common to find someone giving advice such as "set goals and achieve them in order to be happy" but the truth is that only the goals that can help you satisfy your important unmet needs can make you happy. (see Unmet needs psychology)

If you don't have any goals in life then don't make the mistake of copying the goals of someone else just because they are good goals but instead do just as described in this article in order to find the goals that suits you.

What to do if you don't have any goals in life

The first question you should ask yourself if you don't have any goals in life is "Am i really happy?" It might be hard to answer this question because many people prefer to deceive themselves in order to escape from the responsibility.

You must be brave and state courage whether you are really happy with your life or not.

Put in mind that happiness is way different than satisfaction. While the later is a state that people experience when they think that their life is OK the first is a sate experienced when the person falls in love with his life.

If you were not sure whether you are happy or not or if you discovered that you are not happy then certainly there are lots of goals that you must set and achieve in order to reach this sate of happiness.

How to find your goals in life?

Lets suppose that you had everything you ever wanted in life except good loving friends. In such a case the goal you must pursue is making friends. This goal can be divided into many sub goals such as freeing more time or developing your social skills.

On the other hand if you had loving friends but in the same time you feel bad everyday because of the bills you are unable to pay then your goal should be making more money.

People who say that they don't have any goals in life are not the ones who have achieved real happiness but they are the ones who didn't know how to connect their unmet needs with their goals.

What will happen if you didn't find your goals

The majority of people prefer to escape instead of setting goals and fighting for them. Most people will try to come up with excuses that can help them feel good about themselves and escape from guilt.

What most people don't know is that the fastest way to reach depression is to suppress their important unmet needs and act as if they don't exist. In my book, The ultimate guide to getting over depression i said that depression is in many cases an emotion that we get when we move away from the things that we really need in life and act as if we don't need them.

If everything in your life is perfect and if you are really happy then you might be right about not having any goals but if you are like most people then know that the problem is in understanding your real needs and not in your lack of interest in goal setting.

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