How mind programming can ruin your healthy relationship

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

The friend Effect

How many times your spouse started a fight with you because of something that her friend told her about you?

How many times have you found your spouse calling you and fighting even though you were very nice together few hours ago?

Whether we like it or not, we tend to believe what our friends tell us especially if they made their comments in the form of an advice. A small comment like "I think your husband doesn't give you enough time" could trigger a very big fight between a happy couple even if this issue never bothered them before.

Programming the mind

Even if we didn't believe what our friends said we will sooner or later believe them as they keep repeating the same advice over and over.

After we believe them we will start confronting our spouses and declaring our demands, usually in an angry way, which results in complicating the situation even more (see Subconscious mind programming).

some people may even reach a breakup because of the effect outsiders had on their relationship. In my book The ultimate guide to maintaining a healthy relationship i explained how the relationship between you and your spouse's friends can be very critical in maintaining a healthy relationship.

Beware of psychological curses

A psychological curse is a term that i invented that refers to the fact that once a person says one negative statement to you then you might keep thinking about it until you turn it into a reality. See How to curse someone

Let's suppose that a friend of yours told you that he thinks that your wife is dishonest. In such a case you might start getting negative thoughts and doubts that could get fueled by your incorrect perception and so seem very real to you.

As i said earlier the perception always serves the beliefs. Your mind might twist things and let you see events in a different way just to prove to you that this statement is actually correct. See How your emotions affect your perception of the world.

Healthy relationship tips

In order to avoid this mess and maintain a healthy relationship you must make sure that the relationship between you and your spouse is much stronger than the relationship between your spouse and her friends.

The other thing is, you must get in contact with your spouse's friends instead of isolating yourself from them. If you managed to make your spouse's friends like you then instead of the negative programming they were going to make they are going to give a push to your relationship every now and then by making positive comments about you.

Finally complete openness and honesty can help in making your relationship healthier and in making the bond between you both become much stronger. Never lie, never hide anything and always be open with each other. This will help you build a strong intimate relationship that won't be easily affected by outsider's comments (see Openness and honesty in relationships).

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