How to get your ex back

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

How to get your ex back

In my previous article Love psychology i explained how people fall in love with those who meet their unconscious criteria. The unconscious criteria is a list of requirements that each person has, this list determines how that person's future partner should be like.

If someone loved you even for one day then this means that at a certain point of time you managed to meet most of his important unconscious criteria.

If this is the case then why do people breakup with others and move on?
If you understood how this process happens you will be able to get your ex back in no time.

Change in the subconscious criteria

The subconscious criteria is not constant but it keeps changing as the person progresses through life. If a person went through a certain situation that forced him to rethink his criteria then he might lose interest in you if you didn't match that new criterion he formed. (see also Attracting someone who is not interested)

So how to get your ex back in such a case?
Its as simple as showing your ex indirectly that you posses these new traits he is now looking for. For example if a woman started to become more attracted to loyal men after she discovered that her father cheated on her mother then showing her that you are loyal will make her become attracted to you. (see The secret to attracting love)

Change in your own behaviour

Sometimes the person's criteria will remain the same but your own behaviour will change. The result will be the same in this case and you will no more match the criteria of your lover.

Again you need to figure out the important criteria your lover used to look for and to start the process of attracting him once again. Don't ever show that you posses the traits your partner is looking for directly but instead do it indirectly through actions. (see How to attract someone to you)

Bring excitement into the scene once again

when you want to get your ex back don't go and propose once again but instead start by giving attention without showing your intention. As your ex gets used to this attention once again start to pull back.

If your ex started going after you for this attention then become unavailable. When you do so your ex will think about you even more and will start to put you in mind once again. (see How to attract someone you like)

Be available when your ex pulls back then pull back when your ex chases you. After some time your ex wont be able to withstand the pressure and your proposal of getting back will be easily accepted.

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