Why women get repelled by nice guys

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

why nice guys finish last and get dumped all the time

Did you do your best to please the woman you love but got dumped in the end?
Were you more caring and loving than all other men then found that she preferred some cold folk over you?
Are you wondering why you got dumped even though you were really nice to her?

I know that this might be confusing. After all, you did your best, you cared like no one cared and you were very supportive. Now how come can an abusive man, who might even be inferior to you, get preferred over you?

Let me begin by telling you that there is nothing wrong with you but the problem is with your understanding of women's needs.

Women don't like nice guys who shower them with love because they were biologically designed to prefer the bad boy.

If you are still confused then read this article to know what went wrong.

Why women prefer bad boys over nice guys

Here is the answer:

  • 1) Biological makeup: Women were hard wired to prefer the strong, dominant and confident man. Now because being needy might a give false indication that a person is helpless and weak most women will be turned off by the needy man. In short, instead of showering your woman with attention and love know when to show affection and when to pull back
  • 2) Supply and demand: In my book How to make someone fall in love with you i said that women find men more attractive when they find that other women like them as well. In other words the more demanded you are the more attractive you appear to be. Now when you become very nice to a woman she might think that you are desperate to get her just because no one else likes you.
  • 3) There is no challenge for her: In my previous article why women like twilight I explained how women get turned on by challenges. If the love seemed impossible or if the man seemed unreachable then women will fantasize about him more than ever and as a result they will fall for him. Now compare this to the needy man who showers the woman with calls, flowers and love. The more emotionally unavailable you seem to be the more will women get attracted to you (see also Why is 50 shades of grey so popular)
  • 4) You listened to women: Ask any woman about the kind of man she wants and she will reply telling you that she wants the kind,nice and loving man. Now wait until she gets in a relationship or falls in love and you will discover that she fell in love with an abusive emotionally unavailable bad boy. The woman's desire to tame that bad boy and to win his impossible love will motivate her to chase him and this will lead to developing more attachment towards him. (see also Falling in love with your abuser)
  • 5) She put you on the shelf: Human beings always want what they can't get. In my previous article why being mysterious works i explained how people keep thinking about unfinished businesses all the time. If a woman isn't sure whether you truly love her or not then she will keep thinking about it. Now if that woman was 100% sure that you can't live without her then she might put you on the shelf and seek a more mysterious partner

How to attract women

There is a great difference between being a bad boy and a mean person. A bad boy is strong, confident, dominant, self assured and charismatic.

He is not a people pleaser and he won't die if he got dumped. By collecting these qualities and giving up upon being needy you will become much more attractive to women.

Add to this some mystery and a bit of being hard to get and you will win the heart of the woman you love.

People who don't understand how others perceive physical attraction usually develop the imagined ugliness disorder.

The book The psychology of physical attraction explained was released by 2knowmyself. This book won't just help you understand how the attraction process happens but it will also help you discover how attractive you are and will assist you in getting over the imagined ugliness problem.

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