Why do some people believe that they are unattractive or even ugly

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Your beliefs about attractiveness determine how you see yourself

Why do some attractive people believe that they are unattractive?
And why do some average looking people have more confidence than others who look more attractive than them?

In order to know the answer to this question you first need to know how a person judges his own attractiveness.

The way a person judges his overall attractiveness depends on two factors which are:

1) His beliefs about how attraction works
2) His resources (including his physcial looks)

Lets suppose that a woman had a low waist to hip ratio and a full lips (two factors which can attract most men) dislikes the way her nose looks like.

Now if that woman believes that a slightly big nose can turn men off, which is a false belief about the psychology of attraction, then she will believe that she is not attractive and she wont feel confident around men.

why do some people believe that they are unattractive or even ugly

Here is another example, if a dominant alpha male, who is both popular and rich had average looks and if in the same time he believed that women care about facial attractiveness the most then most probably he won't feel confident around women.

If that man were to correct his false beliefs about how attraction happens then he would have realized that he posses the traits that appeals to most women and so he would have been more confident around them.

In other words, the beliefs a person has about the psychology of attraction strongly affects the way he perceives his own attractiveness. (see also Why do we find people attractive)

These facts won't have led to any problems if most people got the psychology of attraction correctly but the truth is that the majority of people are completely uneducated about such an important topic. (see What attracts people to each other)

If you don't believe that you are attractive or if you think that you are not desirable then its time to know more about the way attraction works for you can find yourself much more attractive than you believed you are. (see also My book Attraction psychology)

If you believed you are attractive you will become attractive

Many studies were carried out to find out whether perceived self worth affects the attractiveness of a person or not and they all came up with the same conclusion:

People who believed that they are attractive were actually found to be more attractive than those who believed that they are not attractive. (see does our personality affect our level of attractiveness & How self confidence can make you more attractive)

In other words, when you fix your beliefs about the psychology of attraction you won't just be fixing your self view but you will also become more desirable to the opposite

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