Lots of people want to overcome their bad habits and even though they do their best to combat them they still fail after trying many times.
In order to be able to overcome a bad habit you must not follow generic advice or a one size fits all advice but instead, you have to get a deeper understanding of yourself and of the habit then find the best way that can help you overcome this habit.
In this article i will tell you how to overcome bad habits.
The key to overcoming bad habits is understanding them first.
Contrary to common beliefs bad habits aren't developed as a result of trying something and liking it but instead they are developed because they help the person fill certain psychological gaps in his personality.
For example, during teen hood some teens start to smoke in order to appear more masculine in front of their friends because they already have some insecurities about their masculinity and their ability to face life like men.
Now you might be wondering why would that person stick to smoking as an adult and fail to overcome his smoking habit even though he is no longer a teen? The answer is simple the man has another psychological gap that smoking still fills.
In my article why do people smoke i said that lots of people smoke when they feel stressed in order to restore their sense of control.
Now in order to overcome your bad habit you need to ask yourself the important question, what psychological gap am i trying to fill by doing that habit?
Am i doing that bad habit in order to feel worthy? I am doing that bad habit because it makes me feel in control? and so on.
Once you find the answer you should then work on finding a better alternative that would help you reach your goals other than doing the habit.
After all your subconscious mind doesn't care about the bad habit itself but it only cares about fulfilling a certain unconscious desire.If for example you discovered that you do a certain habit because you lack self confidence then overcoming your bad habit in such a case is all about building your self confidence.
In the Solid Self confidence program i said that many of the bad habits we do have the same common goal of elevating our self worth and making us feel good about ourselves.
A person who doubts his ability to succeed might develop the bad habit of procrastination not because he hates the task but because unconsciously he doesn't want to test his self worth.
That's why i said in the beginning that overcoming bad habits can't happen through generic advice such as "be positive" or "be persistent" but instead it can only happen when you manage to fill that psychological gap in another way that is not harmful.
Sometimes it becomes very hard to overcome a bad habit because there is a great need for it in the person's life. For example a man might be watching TV all the time because he would otherwise feel really bored.
In such a case overcoming the bad habit can be done by developing another good habit that can replace the bad one. That man can solve his problem by developing a good habit such as exercising or even hanging out with his friends more often.
After all the reason he has developed this bad habit is that he feels bored and so if he managed to find any other way to kill boredom other than watching TV he will be able to overcome this bad habit.
In my previous article about the connection between motivation and momentum i said that once you do something it becomes easier for you to do it again.
This rule works both ways when it comes to breaking habits. The more you do a bad habit the easier will it be for your brain to crave it and the more you abstain from the habit the easier will it be for your brain to resist.
I don't agree with the 21-day-rule for breaking habits because each person is a special case and so each person might require a different amount of time to quit something completely. This however doesn't mean that each day of abstaining makes returning to the bad habit much harder.
Abstain by force for sometime and you will realize that your ability to resist the habit became much higher.
Everyday so many people do bad habits that they don't like just because they have already lost hope in breaking those habits. In fact loss of hope is one of the most powerful factors that can prevent people from quitting for long periods of time.
This loss of hope doesn't have to be conscious for in many cases it happens on the unconscious level. Once you believe that there is no way to break a habit you are very likely to keep doing it over and over. See also The psychology of loss of hope
The best thing you can do in such a case is to restore hope once again so that you allow your brain to help you to quit.
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