Why are some people fickle

By M.Farouk Radwan, MSc.

Why are some people fickle

Why are some people so fickle?
Why would someone change his mind about something even though he wanted to do it?
Why would someone give up on a relationship few weeks after he starts it?

There are many reasons that could make someone become fickle and not just one single reason. Even the same person could become fickle when taking a career related decision for a certain reason then become fickle when taking a relationship decision for another reason.

In this article i will explain why are some people so fickle.

This is why some people are so fickle

Below are the possible reasons that could make some people so fickle:

  • 1) They don't know what they want in life People who don't know what they want in life become tempted to take a decision whenever someone stimulates them. A friend of mine was about to join a business venture with me and then she changed her mind as soon as she talked to another friend. When she met me again she decided to join again and later on she met a third friend who made her change her mind. This is a perfect example of a fickle person who acts this way because of not knowing what she wants in life.
  • 2) Low Self esteem: People who have a high self esteem rarely become fickle. When you have a high self esteem you will be able to keep going in the direction you believe in even if people were putting you down or making fun of you. For example a person who lacks self esteem might become fickle about wearing a certain shirt after someone tells him that it doesn't look good on him. Not all fickle people lack self esteem but certainly most of them do (see Ways to raise self esteem)
  • 3) Followers are fickle: Some people are total followers, they don't know how to take decisions for themselves, they don't have personal opinions about anything, they follow others without thinking and that's why they are fickle. Those people change their minds whenever someone who sounds authoritative tells them that they are going in the wrong direction. The follower personality is the result of a combination of low self esteem, extreme fear of failure and an intense desire for approval
  • 4) Unrealistic expectations: Some people are fickle because they have unrealistic expectations. This usually becomes apparent in relationships where a person decides to give up on the relationship just because he started seeing things that he never expected to find. For example people who get married without understanding that marriage is full of responsibilities might become fickle and decide to get a divorce
  • 5) Insecurity and fickleness : In my article why are some people players i explained how insecurity and the need for approval is the main drive that motivates a player to keep moving from one relationship to another. Players are perfect example of fickle people who became fickle because of their insecurities. Because most people know nothing about psychology they might think of players as superior people while in fact they are insecure ones who just need approval from multiple sources in order to feel good about themselves

Are you a fickle person?

If you are a fickle person then you must understand that this personality trait is an indication of the presence of serious problems that you must take care of.

whether its insecurity or low self esteem that is causing your fickleness you must decide today that you are going to fix the problem whatever it is.

If you don't know where you want to go in life then you will end up nowhere.
If you followed people in every step they take then you will end up being an average if not a below average person.

If you are fickle then you must change else your life will be ruined, your low self esteem will become lower and you will waste your life without finding out what you want.

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